痛定思痛 (tòng dìng sī tòng) | Meaning: to think of the pain when the pain is gone (idiom) | Chinese Idiom with Pinyin & Origin

to be so in pain as to not want to live · to be so grieved as to wish one were dead痛不欲生tòng bù yù shēng

(idiom) to be overcome with grief悲痛欲绝bēi tòng yù jué

grieved · sorrowful悲痛bēi tòng

keenly felt pain · bitter anguish切肤之痛qiè fū zhī tòng

cannot bear to think of the past · find it unbearable to recall · too sad to look back · too sad to reflect (the past)不堪回首bù kān huí shǒu

to think of the pain when the pain is gone (idiom) · to ponder about a painful experience